If you always tell him how great he is but get nothing in response, then you may have a problem. Don't be too clingy. If you want to make your man happy emotionally, then you have to know how to be there for him when he needs you and how to back off and give him space when he needs it. Now who likes that? No one. Have a good time going out with your girls and let him go out with his boys without a problem. If you're not hanging out that day, you can check in once or twice, but don't call him every hour, especially when you know he's with his friends, or he'll start to get annoyed.
If you really want to stop being clingy, then you have to be able to pursue your own interests, to have your own passions, and to be your own person without the man's help. You should enjoy your time with your man, but your life shouldn't revolve around him. Learn to compromise. To make your man happy emotionally, you have to be able to compromise when you have a disagreement.
You should know that both of you should be able to get what you want, or to find a middle ground where each of you gets something that makes you happy. Learning to compromise means knowing how to factor in your interests as well as your man's whenever you make a decision. You can also take turns getting what you want -- maybe you get to pick the restaurant for date night, and he gets to pick the movie. Don't be one of those girls who always gets her way because her man thinks it's easier to give you what you want than to put up a fight.
In a good relationship, both people should be willing to compromise. Learn to have even-toned discussions instead of yelling when you have a disagreement. Don't pick fights. There's nothing a man hates more than having to fight, bicker, or argue with his girl for no reason.
If you have something important to discuss, then pick a reasonable time and place where both of you can focus on the conversation; don't start yelling at him in public and expect him to engage with you. Learn to keep your voice calm when you disagree instead of raising it. If you have the urge to pick a fight, ask yourself why you want to pick the fight, and what you're really angry about.
Find a way to discuss this subject in a mature fashion. Don't ask him if he's mad at you if he's just in a bad mood. This is a common mistake many women make. If your man is obviously grumpy and you're not sure why -- or even if you know why -- and you know you can't fix it, then you may tend to ask, "Are you mad at me? Is it something I said? You need to know that there are some situations that you just can't control.
If he's having a bad day, he's just having a bad day -- his world doesn't revolve around you. Remember to have fun. Some women are so obsessed with trying to have a perfect relationship that they forget to relax, kick back, and just have fun with their man. Though relationships are about building a strong, nurturing bond, they're also about being able to laugh, be goofy, and to have an amazing time without trying so hard.
If you and your man aren't laughing on the regular, then he can't be happy emotionally. Don't worry so much about planning the perfect date or the perfect romantic activity.
You can have the most fun renting a goofy movie, hanging out at the mall, or taking an impromptu trip to the beach. Method 2. Know how to touch him. If you want to be able to make your man happy sexually, then you have to know how to touch him to turn him on. Each man is different, but there are a lot of places where almost any man would like to be touched to get him in the mood. Here are a few love locations to try: Touch him behind his ear or whisper into his ear, letting your lips graze his inner ear.
Kiss the front and back of his neck, nibbling on it just the tiniest bit. Give him a sensual shoulder massage and see if it leads to something more. Gently caress the back of his head when you're kissing.
Place a hand on the small of his back when you're talking. Plant a hand firmly on his chest. Try new sexual positions. If you want to make your man happy sexually, then you can't do the same old thing every time. You should be willing to experiment and to try new positions -- as long as you feel comfortable doing it.
If you're always kissing in the same position, with him on top of you, try switching it around so you're the one on the bottom -- and the same goes for sex.
Not every new thing you try will feel great -- but be open to the process. You can go back to your old favorite positions and try new things in the middle. He may have an idea of what he wants. If not, you can try something new first. Hook up in new places. If you want to keep your man happy, then you shouldn't just hook up in the same part of your bed every time. Instead, try moving around your home or apartment and exploring every nook and cranny with your bodies.
Don't be afraid to try hooking up outside the home, whether you check into a hotel in your town or take a romantic vacation. Don't underestimate the good old movie theatre make out. Kissing in the car is another old favorite. Get frisky in public. Find a deserted and romantic location and have fun with your man.
Be adventurous. To please your man sexually, you have to be adventurous. This means being unafraid to go new places and to try new things whenever the mood strikes you.
To be adventurous, you should be willing to try new things, from skinny dipping to kissing on the beach, or even to settling in for a long night of love making on a weekend hike. Don't think of reasons not to try something new -- instead, think of all the reasons why it would be fun. Take an unexpected weekend vacation.
Point your finger on the map and drive to the place you've chosen. Have fun exploring the new spot -- and each other's bodies. Be bold. Being bold is another way to make your man happy sexually. To be bold, you have to let your man know what you want when you want it. Take charge for a night and drag your man into the bedroom, telling him exactly what to do. Or turn to him in the middle of a party or crowded bar and whisper "I want you," in his ear, telling him that it's time to go home and hook up pronto.
Your man will appreciate your audacity and frankness and it'll turn him on even more. If you're in the mood, just go for it. If you get that loving feeling when your man is in the shower, just sneak in there and join him for a soap session.
Try not to let it slip by while you stare at a screen. Just take a moment to connect, eye-to-eye, and share looks with one another. Look him in the eye with a smile or a playful expression, and hold his gaze for three seconds.
He may be your boyfriend or husband now, but he still deserves to feel special. One key to a lasting relationship is to give your partner a million happy little moments with you, and he should do the same in return.
After all, studies show that a happy marriage seems to come down to how much kindness exists between the partners. This article was originally published with the Good Men Project.
We're having a conversation about what it means to be a good man in the 21st century. Care to join us? Find us on Facebook , and Twitter. Take these super-sweet tips and have him blushing with warm fuzzies in no time. Compliment him. Tell him you appreciate what he does for you and your family. Make time for things to get hot in the bedroom. Be supportive of his alone time. Put down your phone. When you get something for yourself, get something for him, too.
Picking up a coffee? Satisfy these needs on a daily basis for optimum boyfriend happiness. Make your boyfriend happy by getting to know him and celebrating him. Find out what makes your boyfriend unique. Celebrate that uniqueness by giving him positive affirmation and verbal applause. On his birthday or when he gets a promotion or achieves a personal victory, you should be there to applaud him and tell him how proud you are of him.
Listen to him when he needs to vent about his bad day. To be an active listener, turn off your cell phone, the television or step away from anything that may draw your attention away from him. Listen to him without giving advice unless he asks for it. Make your boyfriend happy by becoming his confidante, his sounding wall. Keep his confidences to yourself and resist the urge to share his secrets. Participate in his life by being supportive through your attendance.
If he asks you to walk through Comic-Con with him, do not bow out at the last minute or refuse him. Go with him and participate in the things that are important to him. No boyfriend wants a clingy girlfriend. Display your independence by doing things on your own sometimes. This attitude helps you too. Support yourself and keep in touch with your friends. It is not healthy to abandon your independence for your boyfriend, nor would any good boyfriend want you to do that.
Resist the urge to be with him every moment of the day. For some girlfriends, the real proof of your love is trust. Encourage your boyfriend to have some guy time with friends. Guy time could mean a night out for drinks or a bike-riding weekend with his best friends. Avoid pushing your presence on your boyfriend or becoming jealous. Give him space to think and just hang out; this will make him happy and develop a deeper relationship. Some touch is reserved for those in a relationship and demonstrates the special bond between the two people.
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